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Planet of the Anals

No this isn’t about anal sex. Sorry.

I’m always going on about ‘anal’ people – I mean people who are WAY more tidy and orderly than me.  To wit:

  • a long-ex boyfriend who ironed his y-fronts and never went anywhere without a small case stacked with the full range of masculine fragrances. (And if you’re wondering about the pic, I just COULDN’T go past this ad for undie stuffers).

  • an acquaintance who hung all his knives and forks and stuff up on little hangers. God, it’s hard enough to summon up the energy to take the damn things out of the dishwasher!

  • a dear friend who refuses to date anybody from his ‘work’ – an organisation which in total employs THOUSANDS of people. And on that subject, here’s a site for people who are seriously anal about their dating –
  • a woman I used to know at work who refused to drink tap water because ‘fish have peed in it’.

Anyway today it occurred to me, what the hell IS anal anyway? I mean, what does organising your jelly beans by colour have to do with producing ‘chocolate icecream’ as one blogger’s mum called it.

Well here it is:

During the anal stage, Freud believed that the primary focus of the libido was on controlling bladder and bowel movements. The major conflict at this stage is toilet training–the child has to learn to control his or her bodily needs. Developing this control leads to a sense of accomplishment and independence.

According to Freud, success at this stage is dependent upon the way in which parents approach toilet training. Parents who utilize praise and rewards for using the toilet at the appropriate time encourage positive outcomes and help children feel capable and productive.  However, not all parents provide the support and encouragement that children need during this stage. Some parents’ instead punish, ridicule or shame a child for accidents. If parents take an approach that is too lenient, Freud suggested that an anal-expulsive personality could develop in which the individual has a messy, wasteful or destructive personality. If parents are too strict or begin toilet training too early, Freud believed that an anal-retentive personality develops in which the individual is stringent, orderly, rigid and obsessive.’

Ok so there are NOT ONE but two types of Anal.

And I’m probably one of them.

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9 responses »

  1. ummm….according to this, MOST of us may be one of them! 😉

  2. NormalDeviations

    Holy crap, now I fear for my later years. I’ve always messed around with my kids, a lot. Usually to try to get them to think of things from a different angle or not accept conventional wisdom, Now I wonder how it’s gonna come back to haunt me. =)

    How does that relate? I used to encourage Evil Genius to continue in diapers–it stimulated the economy by increased consumer purchasing. He (at 2-3 years old) kinda grasped that was a good thing. Then I told him about Freudian viewpoints about not being toilet trained at a regular pace, and it might cause emotional baggage when he was an adult. He couldn’t figure out which way to go.

  3. Ok I resemble some of those remarks… So maybe I am just the slightest bit anal as I think this guy who doesn’t date people at work sounds like a nice guy, and what’s wrong with neatly hanging up your knives and forks on a neat little hanger… But hey what the heck if this person, who ever they may happen to be, likes to do things that way, why the heck not. To heck with Freud… It’s better to be a neat freak than to have to fight your way past the garbage… Remember this lovely couple, wouldn’t you just love to be their neighbours!!!

    Capt. Savage
    (a neat freak from way back)

  4. “a woman I used to know at work who refused to drink tap water because ‘fish have peed in it’.” LOL 😀

    I wish that I could find my wife a slip for her to wear under her dress that has Freud’s face stenciled on it, like on a t-shirt. Because then she could wear a Freudian slip instead of making one. 🙂

    • that’s really funny! And VERY commercial! I’m going to start a business making ‘Freudian slips’. Our office will be in an ‘Oedipus Complex’. Ha ha. Yeah, REALLY lame.

      • Glad that you liked it! 🙂 Maybe we could go into business together and both make our fortune. Lol

        And really funny comeback with “office being an ‘Oedipus Complex’! That’s not lame at all, cause I think it’s very funny! 😀

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